Today I went to visit a girlfriend who just had a baby girl. Both parents were beaming in happiness & full of joy. Good on them & I feel so happy for them.
In the old days in Indonesia (my grandma’s era) there was a saying that if you have more children it means you’ll have a greater fortune (banyak anak banyak rezeki). I don’t know why but maybe because if you have a lot of children then when they grow up they’ll help you out & give you money. That’s what my mum & dad used to do for their parents anyway.
So at that time, it was normal for people to have more than half a dozen children. My mum has 12 siblings and my dad has 7 siblings.
Down to my mum’s era, which was the Soeharto era, it was encouraged that people have a maximum of 3 children because that’s the maximum number the government will pay their employees child allowance. So if you have 4 children, the 4th child won’t get any allowance. Maybe that’s why my parents stopped at three.🙂
But mind you, there were people in my parents’ era that had more than 5 children as well. My mum’s eldest brother had 9 children & one of our neighbors in Rawasari area of Jakarta had 11 children (they really wanted a boy but the first 10 were girls & they only stopped when they had the number 11th, which was a boy).
These days, in my generation, if I see a mum with 3 children, I would often say “wow! you have three children, how can you do it?”. Just unthinkable.
For a childless couple like us, even one seems plenty at this stage. I am just wondering what will future generations will think about this matter…
This is what I wore to work & when I visited my girlfriend at the hospital earlier today:
– Dress from Max Azria, USA.
– Belt from Friends of Couture, Melbourne.
– Shoes from Prada, Italy.
– Bag from Charles & Keith, Jakarta.
– Necklace from the Vatican museum shop in Vatican City.
– Earrings from Swarowski in Beijing.